At one time or another, we’ve all cared about what other people think about us.
And if you claim you haven’t you’re a fucking liar. #truth
However, the bigger issue is, some of us care way too much what other people think about us.
In fact, sometimes it gets so bad that it runs our day to day lives. #notcool #beentheredonethat
The good news is, you can change, and you can stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you.
Is it super easy? Well, yes and no. It’s a process.
First of all, the reason most of us (me included) care or have cared about what others think about us is because of our own self-doubt and insecurities.
Think about it – if you are happy and self-confident in your life, do you care what others think? Usually, no.
So, my first tip is to get happy. Happiness and self-confidence go hand and hand in my opinion. You can’t have one without the other.
And remember this life lesson from Elle Woods: “Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.”
How do you get happy? And self-confident? That’s a whole different post.
Getting happy and self-confident is a personal journey – it’s not one size fits all.
One tip I will give is to do some soul searching, and you’ll quickly figure it out. It’s not rocket science after all.
My second tip, is to not take anything personally, like ever.
We’ve all had people say or do things that knock us on our asses. These words hurt, they make us sad and make us feel like shit.
What people say or do is a reflection of themselves, and it has NOTHING to do with you. More importantly, people say stupid shit ALL THE TIME, and they don’t even realize it.
Plus, 95% of the time no one remembers what they said about you, so why should you. Don’t carry around someone’s words with you and relive them like a bad movie. Shake ’em off and move on.
If you don’t take anything personally, you’re immune to it, and it can’t hurt you.
My third tip, know your worth and love yourself.
This tip circles back to tip numero uno.
If you love yourself and know your worth people’s words and opinions won’t matter.
Knowing your worth means not having to go looking for approval from others and not being hurt or affected by what others say. Because honestly you just won’t give a f**k.
When you know you don’t deserve to be treated like shit, you won’t take being treated like crap.
My fourth tip is, don’t be paranoid.
“Paranoia, paranoia. Everybody’s coming to get me.”
Now I know you’re all like what me paranoid? Never. Stop, we’ve all been there.
We all get wrapped up thinking we are so important that people are talking or thinking about us, but truth is they aren’t. Unless you’re a Kardashian, then it’s probably true.
We’ve all thought someone was looking at us because we must be hideous or because we look fat. But the TRUTH is people are way too wrapped up in their lives to care about what you’re doing or what you look like.
Humans are selfish and aren’t paying attention to everything you say and do. So let it go.
All in all, stop being paranoid.
My final tip is, don’t justify yourself or your choices.
People have preconceived notions and opinions about everything including you. However, that doesn’t mean you need to defend or explain yourself or your life choices.
The people who love and support you don’t need an explanation for why you are who you are. Just do you and live your life.
To sum up my tips for not giving a fuck about what people think of you:
- Be Happy and Self-Confident
- Don’t Take Anything Personally
- Know Your Worth and Love Yourself
- Stop Being Paranoid
- Don’t Justify Yourself
Remember, none of this is going to happen over night. I’m STILL working on all of these. Some days/weeks are better than others. Like I said it’s a process, but one day it will all click.
You’re fucking fabulous and fantastic – don’t let anyone tell you different.
Do you care what people think of you? How do you deal with it?