how to set goals and achieve them…

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You want a hot body? You wanna live fancy? Live in a big mansion?

You better work bitch.

The infamous Britney Spears couldn’t have said it any better.

Brit-Brit will always be one of my idols. I mean those abs – how does she do it? #fitnessgoals

But let’s cut the shit.

Daydreaming about what you want in life is the easy part.

In fact, it’s so easy, it’s what most people spend their days doing. #boring

However, they never actually do anything more. 

But bitches, setting goals and actually achieving them is an entirely different story.

No matter how insane or outlandish your dreams and goals are, you can achieve them.

I mean Kim Zolciak said it best Ask, Believe, and Receive.

Kim leaves out one tiny detail in between the believe and receive part – it’s called WORKING YOUR ASS OFF.

Got it? Good.

Are we all guilty of day dreaming? Yes. Are we all guilty of wishing our hopes and dreams would just drop in our laps? HELL Yes.

Can we actually set up goals and achieve them? Yes.

So let’s do the damn thing already!

First, decide on something you want to do or work towards. You want bikini body? Or maybe that mansion? #goals

Personally, I want to turn this blog into a career. And I want to get super-skinny and hot. Bam, two goals down!

Then, carefully write down your goals. I’d write down the big picture goal and then also give more specific details about your goal.

Buy a journal or a notebook that you can keep your goals listed in. I’d even suggest using the Notes feature on your phone that way your goals are readily available to you. #themoreyouknow

Next, tell someone you trust about your goals, which will up the chances that you’ll actually stick to them.

I mean no one wants to look like a loser, right?

Now, don’t tell every Tom, Dick, and Harry about your goals. Tell 1 or 2 trusted friends or family member.

Basically, tell someone who won’t laugh in your face.

Then, make your game plan. Think of steps you can take to achieve your goals and write them down.

For me, daily blogging is one of my steps. Eating healthier and moving my ass more is another one.

Now it’s time the WORK YOUR ASS OFF phase.

My advice? WORK YOUR ASS OFF. Harsh? Yes. But as Ray said in Uptown Girls “It’s a harsh world.” 

Keep working on your goals day after day – think of it as a step and repeat.

If something isn’t working – change it. If this goal makes you miserable – fucking change it and start over.

Finally, CELEBRATE!

Pop the bubbly and make it rain.

You don’t have to wait to celebrate until you’ve reached your goal. How boring would that be?

Celebrate the little victories along the way. #blessed

Here are my tips for setting goals and achieving them: 

  1. Daydream 
  2. Decide
  3. Write it down
  4. Say it out loud
  5. Make a game plan
  6. Work your ass off 
  7. Step and Repeat
  8. Celebrate

So bitches let’s stop dreaming and start doing the work. We are all better than living out someone else’s dream. Let’s start living our own.

What are a few goals you have? How do you plan on achieving your goals?

xo, Lara

how to create a realistic morning routine

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Who doesn’t love a good routine? I know I do.

But you know what I hate? Those picture-perfect morning routines we see from so many “influencers,” talk about fake, fake, fake. #killmenow

Like no, I don’t love waking up at 5 am, and no I don’t wake up looking picture perfect. More importantly, no I’m not perky and bubbly first thing in the morning. Gag me.

Let’s get real.

I love sleeping in, and I love staying up late. However, that’s not exactly the best way to live your life. Even though sometimes I still can’t help but sleep in late. Wink, wink.

In reality, my mornings aren’t picture perfect, and they usually are never the same. But I do love continuity, so I think developing a good morning routine is important.

Since becoming unemployed, the structure I had to my morning routine has gone out the window. And to be perfectly honest the first month was rough. I slept till probably 11 or 12 every day. No Bueno. Let’s just say my days were less than productive.

However, I knew I needed to turn things around, so I created a simple, efficient, and relaxing morning routine that doesn’t stress me out or give me the shakes.

So, how can you create a realistic morning routine?

Fucking do it. Just kidding.

First, reflect on your situation and cut out anything that makes you miserable every morning. No one likes a cranky bitch.

Next, decide on 2-4 morning goals that are important to you.

Everyone’s lives and morning ritual are different so make sure your routine fits your life, not someone else’s.

Remember copying a famous blogger or YouTube star’s morning routine isn’t going to make your morning suddenly amazing especially if it doesn’t fit your life.

Instead, create rituals and goals that will make you happy and not stress you out.

Most importantly, do you!

Then, figure out your timeline. Plan out when you’re going to get up and how much time you have to spend on each goal. If you want to spend an hour painting your face each morning, do it! If you’re a hungry bitch and need to eat a big breakfast, get it, girl! #feedme

Finally, be realistic. You can’t do it all every morning. Try out your routine and see if you can stick with it – if not “dust yourself off and try again.”

Remember, “Just do your thang, We’ll see how it goes.”

Personally, I’ve realized that I need to do a few things each morning to feel good. My list includes sleeping in a bit, meditating, having a little dance party, getting Starbucks, doing a face mask than my makeup, and eating breakfast. For me, that’s my perfect morning. Will it change, probably but for now it’s working.

To sum it up here are my four steps for creating a realistic morning routine:

1. Reflect
2. Decide on 2-4 rituals to accomplish
3. Set a timeline
4. Be realistic (and try again, if needed)

Do you have a morning routine? What morning rituals are important to you? Are you sick of seeing idealized morning routines?

xo, Lara

how to stop caring about what other people think of you

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At one time or another, we’ve all cared about what other people think about us.

And if you claim you haven’t you’re a fucking liar. #truth

However, the bigger issue is, some of us care way too much what other people think about us.

In fact, sometimes it gets so bad that it runs our day to day lives. #notcool #beentheredonethat

The good news is, you can change, and you can stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you.

Is it super easy? Well, yes and no. It’s a process.

First of all, the reason most of us (me included) care or have cared about what others think about us is because of our own self-doubt and insecurities.

Think about it – if you are happy and self-confident in your life, do you care what others think? Usually, no.

So, my first tip is to get happy. Happiness and self-confidence go hand and hand in my opinion. You can’t have one without the other.

And remember this life lesson from Elle Woods: “Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.”

How do you get happy? And self-confident? That’s a whole different post.

Getting happy and self-confident is a personal journey – it’s not one size fits all.

One tip I will give is to do some soul searching, and you’ll quickly figure it out. It’s not rocket science after all.

My second tip, is to not take anything personally, like ever.

We’ve all had people say or do things that knock us on our asses. These words hurt, they make us sad and make us feel like shit.

What people say or do is a reflection of themselves, and it has NOTHING to do with you. More importantly, people say stupid shit ALL THE TIME, and they don’t even realize it.

Plus, 95% of the time no one remembers what they said about you, so why should you. Don’t carry around someone’s words with you and relive them like a bad movie. Shake ’em off and move on.

If you don’t take anything personally, you’re immune to it, and it can’t hurt you.

My third tip, know your worth and love yourself.

This tip circles back to tip numero uno.

If you love yourself and know your worth people’s words and opinions won’t matter.

Knowing your worth means not having to go looking for approval from others and not being hurt or affected by what others say. Because honestly you just won’t give a f**k.

When you know you don’t deserve to be treated like shit, you won’t take being treated like crap.

My fourth tip is, don’t be paranoid.

“Paranoia, paranoia. Everybody’s coming to get me.”

Now I know you’re all like what me paranoid? Never. Stop, we’ve all been there.

We all get wrapped up thinking we are so important that people are talking or thinking about us, but truth is they aren’t. Unless you’re a Kardashian, then it’s probably true.

We’ve all thought someone was looking at us because we must be hideous or because we look fat. But the TRUTH is people are way too wrapped up in their lives to care about what you’re doing or what you look like.

Humans are selfish and aren’t paying attention to everything you say and do. So let it go.

All in all, stop being paranoid.

My final tip is, don’t justify yourself or your choices.

People have preconceived notions and opinions about everything including you. However, that doesn’t mean you need to defend or explain yourself or your life choices.

The people who love and support you don’t need an explanation for why you are who you are. Just do you and live your life.

To sum up my tips for not giving a fuck about what people think of you:

  1. Be Happy and Self-Confident
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
  3. Know Your Worth and Love Yourself
  4. Stop Being Paranoid
  5. Don’t Justify Yourself

Remember, none of this is going to happen over night. I’m STILL working on all of these. Some days/weeks are better than others. Like I said it’s a process, but one day it will all click.

You’re fucking fabulous and fantastic – don’t let anyone tell you different.

Do you care what people think of you? How do you deal with it?

xo, Lara

Celebrate Life’s Most #BasicBitch Moments With Pop.Fizz.Clink.

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Happy Monday!

Mimosas? ✔️ Motivation? ✔️ A new PopFizzClink podcast? ✔️

If you’re asking – what the fuck is PopFizzClink?

Oh, darlings let me explain.

PopFizzClink is my newest endeavor – a podcast.

I know, I know I can barely keep up with this blog so adding another thing to my plate is genius. Pure genius.

I’m blaming it on unemployment. When you’re trying to figure out your next steps in life, you get a million ideas. And believe me, PopFizzClink is one of my better ideas. Pinky swear.

So, what’s the deal with this podcast?

PopFizzClink is where we celebrate life’s most #basicbitch moments. Sounds fun, right?

I wanted to create a place where I discuss EVERYTHING – gossip, culture, celebrity gossip, dating, fashion, life, sucky feels, and so much more!

It’s a place to bitch it out while downing a couple of drinks.

The podcast is hosted by Moi and my unofficial co-host Jenna.

Join in on the fun bitches, and check out PopFizzClink on iTunes and SoundCloud.

Clink, Clink bitches!

Xo, Lara

are you ready to create your dream life?

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Do you ever feel like you’re a little late to the party called life?

OMFG, me too!

All my friends seem “settled” in their lives and careers. You know the story they all appear to have it all – great jobs, marriages, engagements, babies, new homes and I’m over here like….

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Let’s get even more real, for a moment.

Does that ugly little monster named jealousy ever rear its ugly head? Hell yes.

The bigger question is – what can we do about it?

A while back I came to the realization that I’m not where I’m meant to be in my life.

You too?

Ok, let’s change that ASAP.

Instead of moping around about it let’s transform ourselves and our lives.

Will it be easy? No. Will we stumble along the way? Fuck, Yes. Will it be fun as hell? YES, YES, YES!

Now it’s time to get into the nitty gritty and make some introductions.

Hi, I’m Lara the name behind Chic and Sequined. More on me at a later date. But don’t you worry we’ll get to know each other very well, promise. 

Chic and Sequined is a beauty, fashion, and lifestyle guide to getting the life you’ve always wanted. After all – it’s not just a look, it’s a lifestyle.

Now, I don’t claim to know-it-all and to be honest, I’m probably just as lost in my life as you are. Super fun, right?

However, I do know quite a bit, and I am here to share my knowledge with you. As I grow and learn so will you.

Sound like a win, win?

So, let’s grow together and become who we’re meant to be!

I’m up for the challenge, are you?

Remember – the dream of who you’re meant to be is still out there…you’re just a little late to the party.

Make sure you subscribe to ChicandSequined.com to get daily updates. Also, follow me on Twitter and Instagram so we can become BFFs!

xo, Lara

unexpected life changes

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Less than a month ago, I found out I’m losing my job in March. Talk about a major what-the-fuck moment. Initially, I was numb, then angry, confused and sad about the whole thing. I gave 8 years of my life to this company, and now I was being kicked to the curb. This whole experience quickly became a blessing in disguise, and I suddenly refused to be sad about losing my job; in fact, I was happy as a pig in shit.

Did I love my job? Fuck no. So why was I staying at this job? The people. And honestly, that’s not a good enough reason to stay in any job. The Universe had given me what I desperately wanted; a way out of my current job and the opportunity to go after what I wanted.

What do I really want? I want to be a digital content creator, which is a fancy name for Blogger/YouTuber/Podcaster etc. I’m creative as fuck and working a desk job, pushing papers just isn’t for me. And to be honest, I’ve wanted this for years but was too afraid to admit it to anyone.

So what’s the whole point of this post? Well, it’s to remind you that sometimes life gives you exactly what you need at the most unexpected time. Major life changes can be tough, but if you stay positive, you can turn lemons into lemonade. I encourage everyone to take the time and figure out what YOU really want and then go out and live the life of your dreams!

I’d love to know how you have handled unexpected life changes – tell me below!

xo Lara

 

 

monday motivation…

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Mondays are a bitch.

Mondays can be rough so why not a little motivation to make Monday a bit more manageable.

Bring on the Bloody Mary’s coffee!

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Current mood.

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a yummy treat from Sprinkles

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Food for thought.

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super pretty Christmas decorations in Georgetown

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words to live by

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Hope you have beautiful Monday!

xo, Lara

monday motivation

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Mondays are a bitch.

Mondays can be rough so why not a little motivation to make Monday a bit more manageable.

Bring on the Bloody Mary’s coffee!

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so true it’s funny

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something to think about it

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current mood

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beauty inspiration

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hoping the super moon brings a lot wonderful and happy changes to all our lives

xo, Lara

monday motivation


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Mondays are a bitch.

Mondays can be rough so why not a little motivation to make Monday a bit more manageable.

Bring on the Bloody Mary’s coffee!

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Get off your ass and #VOTE this week! Listen to the Lorax and care enough to make your voice heard.

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A must-have especially on Mondays

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Motivation to work extra hard this week…momma needs a new pair of shoes!

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words to live by via the champagne diet

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What’s getting you motivated to get through this week?

xo,

Lara

8 benefits of lemon water

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We all could do more to be healthier – eat less, move more, drink more water, etc.

While getting or staying healthy is easier said than done I’ve always been super curious about one lifestyle tip most fitness guru’s swear by and that’s drinking lemon water in the morning.

People rave and rave about what amazing things drinking lemon water in the morning does for them, but my question is does it live up to all its claims?

 First off, let’s talk about the supposed benefits of drinking lemon water each and every morning.

1. Boosts Your Immune System
Lemons are full of Vitamin C and potassium, so they fight off colds and stimulate brain and nerve function.

2. Balances Your PH
Lemons help reduce your body’s overall acidity.

3. Helps You Drop The Pounds
Lemons are high in fiber and help fight hunger cravings.

4. Aids In Digestion
Lemon juice flushes out all the crap and reduces heartburn.

5. Is A Diuretic
Water makes you pee, and Lemon water makes you pee even more while helping purify your body of toxins.

6. Clears Your Skin
The Vitamin C in Lemons helps decrease wrinkles and pimples.

7. Freshens Breath
Lemons can make your breath smell better and relieve any tooth pain.

8. Keeps You Zen
Vitamin C is depleted when your mind and body get stressed. Adding more of it to your diet can take you from Namast’ay away from me to Namaste.

People also claim that lemon water each morning will help you kick your coffee habit. Umm..NOTHING comes between me and my coffee.

So, why am I telling you all the benefits of drinking lemon water every morning?

I want to challenge myself to try this practice for the next 30 days, with weekly check-in’s to see if lemon water is fabulous as it claims to be.

xo,
Lara