Girls Night In…

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I’m extra sassy today. Why? Well, I’m running on NO sleep – nada, zip, zero, stingy with dinero. Did you catch that Jay-Z reference? Wink, wink.

My current mood is a perfect ten on the delirious scale.

You feel me? I’ve got that jittery, hyper-aware, slightly psycho, super exhausted but can’t sleep vibe happening.

It’s a beautiful thing.

Yes, I’m sick and twisted, and sometimes I like running on no sleep. Sue me. I just get way more done. Anyone agree?

Don’t get me wrong I love to sleep, hell I’d marry my bed if I could. Kidding, I promise.

But right now I’m way too many cups of coffee deep to count, and I’m running on pure bitchiness.

As always I’ve got all the basics covered so don’t worry your pretty little head about a thing.

Booze? Check. Snacks? Check. Trashy TV? Check. Face Masks? Check.

Let’s get down to business and start getting tipsy.

The Drink

Summer is almost over. Umm…where did July go? It legit flew by. I’ve dying to be on a beach with an endless stream of frozen drinks, but that isn’t happening.

And I’m too lazy to make frozen drinks at home. I need my very own Michael from Southern Charm. One day.

So, I think I’m going to rely on an old faithful #basicbitch drink.

The Mimosa – it’s simple, chic, and on-point with Real Housewives of Orange County.

Now some may argue that a mimosa is a morning only drink but I highly disagree.

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While mimosas are a breakfast and brunch staple, they CAN and SHOULD be guzzled anytime – day or night.

I love mimosas more than I can verbalize.

A few mimosa rules – ALWAYS, well almost always, use a dry, brut cheap champagne. No need to pop bottles of Dom and Christelle, trust me.

However, I do love a good Veuve Clicquot mimosa when I’m feeling extra fancy.

Mimosa Basics:

1 Bottle of Champs (Cook’s extra dry, brut is a staple for me.)

1 Bottle of Pulp Free Simply Orange Juice (if you’re watching your waist you can do Tropicana Trop 50)

1 Bottle of Grand Marnier or Peach Schnapps (I prefer peach schnapps hands down)

Champagne glass(es)

A Pitcher

1-2 oranges sliced

When it comes to mimosas – BIGGER IS ALWAYS BETTER. One doesn’t simply make a mimosa, no, one must always make a pitcher of mimosas! Honestly, mimosas taste better in bigger batches because the flavors get the chance to mix and settle.

Take your pitcher, add one bottle of champagne, half a bottle of orange juice, a quarter bottle of peach schnapps, add orange slices –  mix everything together and pour.

Now guzzle and repeat!

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The Snack

Yesterday I was craving rice crispy treats, well actually I was craving Fruity Pebble crispy treats. I’m a pretty good cook, and baker but to be honest I’ve NEVER been able to master rice crispy treats – weird, right?

But I finally felt the need to conquer making rice crispy treats, and they are surprisingly simple.

Fruity Pebble Rice Crispy Treats:

2 tablespoons of butter

6 cups of Fruity Pebbles

8 cups of mini-marshmallows

Butter Cooking Spray

A 9×13 inch pan

A non-stick frying pan

1 silicone spatula

Spray the 9×13 inch pan with non-stick butter cooking spray. Take six cups of marshmallows and two tablespoons of butter and place in a non-stick frying pan on low heat. Let marshmallows and butter melt until there are no lumps; stir occasionally. I sprayed my spatula with the non-stick butter cooking spray, so the marshmallows didn’t stick to my spatula as they melted.

Once the marshmallows and butter are melted, remove from the heat and add in remaining 2 cups of marshmallows and 6 cups of Fruity Pebbles. Mix until cereal is completely coated with melted marshmallows.

Spray your hands, gross I know, with non-stick butter cooking spray and place cereal and marshmallow mixture into your greased 9×13 inch pan. Press Fruity Pebble mixture into the pan and let sit until completely cooled. Cut and devour.

Aren’t I just a regular old Martha Stewart? I don’t know what’s sadder – the fact that it’s taken me this long to learn how to make rice crispy treats or that I made them.

The Face Mask

I don’t know about you, but I often have those days where my skin needs a miracle to look good. Well, that’s when I reach for First Aid Beauty’s Bouncy Mask.

The Bouncy Mask is a 5 in 1, yes you read that right, mask that nourishes, calms, firms, plumps, and refines your face.

The Bouncy Mask is so good that it will give you your very own Mia Thermopolis moment – just kidding.

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But this mask does work wonders and will make your skin look and feel a million times better.

Plus you can use this mask day or night and up to 3x a week, which means your skin should look incredible all the time.

The Shows

At the moment my world revolves around RHOC and the Real Housewives of New YorkI can’t get enough! Honestly, I can’t decide which franchise is better right now. RHONY is bringing the craziness and drama, but RHOC only just started its 12th season, and the bitchiness and backstabbing has already begun.

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Plus, I got to chat with Tamra Judge today, you know just a casual private message exchange on Instagram – no biggie. Meanwhile, I was peeing my pants with excitement. Love Tamra!

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That’s all the fun I have for this week, bitches. But if you want more make sure you listen to my weekly podcast Pop Fizz Clink which is available on iTunes and SoundCloud.

What are your favorite Girls Night In rituals?

xo, Lara

girls night in…

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It’s Monday so that means it’s time to plan out another Girls Night In!

Getting lost in a few hours of reality TV sounds amazing right now!

I’ve got all the basics covered so don’t worry your pretty little head about a thing.

Booze? Check. Snacks? Check. Trashy TV? Check. Face Masks? Check.

This week it’s all about convenience because I’m totally LAZY and have a million things going on.

So, let’s get down to business and start getting tipsy.

The Drink

This past week I created my now favorite drink. It’s super easy to make, super low-calorie, and hydrates you while still getting you tipsy.

I’ve dubbed my drink The Skinny Bitch because it’s aspirational and it’s something we all want to be.

Here’s what you’ll need for The Skinny Bitch:

1-2 shots of chilled Absolute Lime Vodka

1 lime wedge

Cranberry Juice – I prefer Diet or Light Cranberry

Ice

Water

Take 1 lime wedge and muddle into the bottom of your glass. Take your glass and fill it with ice. Add water until the glass is filled 3/4 of the way. Then add your 1-2 shots of Absolute Lime Vodka. Add a splash – yes just a splash of cranberry juice and then squeeze remaining lime into the drink and mix.

And voila you’ll have a delicious and guilt free drink to sip on. Legit everyone kept asking me about my drink at a BBQ and everyone who tried it loved it.

Now go be a skinny bitch!

The Snack

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I told you it’s all about being lazy this week and that means reaching for an old faithful in the snack department.

I’ve been dying for some ice cream without the expanding waistline and depression that follows.

So, this week I’m reaching for Halo Top which is actually really good and full of protein. Talk about guilt free snacking!

While I haven’t tried all the flavors my favorites so far are the chocolate peanut butter flavor and the sea salt caramel.

However, I just bought the Smores flavor and I can’t wait to dive into it – literally!

The FaceMask

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I’m all about de-puffing this week. I swear after being out in the sun, heat, and indulging in summer foods I’m in desperate need of a detox.

While water helps de-puff my face and body I like to take extra precaution with my face. Believe me – puffy-faced Lara ain’t a cute Lara.

So this week it’s all about sheet masks that calm, hydrate, and de-puff my face perfectly.

My favorite super affordable sheet masks are by Leaders and Tony Moly which can both be purchased at Ulta. On the higher end spectrum, I love SK-II’s sheet masks and recently tried Dr. Jart’s sheet and rubber masks which are AMAZING!

Although, tonight I think I’m going to give the Peter Thomas Roth Un-Wrinkle 24k Gold Intense Wrinkle Sheet Mask a whirl. I’ve been holding onto for a special occasion and I think tonight fits the bill.

The TV Shows

For me, it’s all about the Real Housewives of Orange County premiere tonight! I can’t wait to see what the RHOC are up to this season.

Plus we have the RHOP reunion, part one of the Southern Charm reunion, RHONY, and so much more!

I can’t wait to see what goes down on Southern Charm and RHONY. Also, part one of the RHOP reunion wasn’t bad – I only watched half but I’m enticed enough to watch the rest.

I will be live tweeting all the above shows so make sure you join me! Follow me @LaraSophia for all the details!

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That’s all the fun I have for this week, bitches. But if you want more make sure you listen to my weekly podcast Pop Fizz Clink which is available on iTunes and SoundCloud.

What are your favorite Girls Night In rituals?

xo, Lara

Monday Motivation

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Good Morning bitches…

It’s probably a rough one considering it’s the Monday after a long holiday week. I know I’m struggling a little bit myself this morning.

All those drinks, all that food, all that fun in the sun – it’s exhausting!  Total first world problems.

However, it’s not that easy to settle back into work mode and get our hustle on after we’ve been off our game for a few days.

So, here’s 5 things that will motivate you to get through this Monday and maybe the rest of the week!

That first cup of coffee or if you’re me – those first 4 shots of espresso. Nothing is better than espresso, and nothing takes you from zombie mode faster.

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Reflecting on all the fun you’ve had over the weekend/holiday week. For me, it was the shenanigans at my friend’s Bachelorette party and living by the pool all week.

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Looking forward to all those weekend plans you make on Monday and will cancel or renege on by the Friday and Saturday. I’m not the only one, right?

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The Real Housewives of Orange County premiere! I’m ready to woohoo it with the OC girls once again. Can’t wait to see what my OC bitches have in store for us this season.

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Getting that fall body, I didn’t get a summer, winter, or spring bod this year but there’s still hope for fall and 2018.

As Fergie said, “I be up in the gym just working on my fitness.”

Plus, I’m looking for inspiration in Kate Hudson’s Pretty Happy book. I mean could Kate get any hotter? Talk about #goals.

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Get motivated bitches!

What’s helping you get through this Monday? Is there anything you’re looking forward to this week?

Xo, Lara

4 things to say yes to in 2017!

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Unless you’ve been living under a rock you’ve heard all about the Year of Yes. It’s a book by Shondra Rimes, yes Grey’s Anatomy’s brilliant creator, that’s all about saying yes to everything.

While I’ve listened to the Year of Yes thanks to the audio book gods I’m not quite ready to commit to saying yes to everything that comes my way. That’s a little too much of a commitment for me.

However, I’d like to broaden my horizons and be a little more adventurous in 2017. Unless it involves camping or hiking because I don’t do that shit.

So, here are a few things to say yes to even when you’d rather stay in bed watching a Real Housewives marathon. Damn, that sounds good.

Nightlife

I’m all about a good boozy brunch or backyard get together but when it comes to hitting up bars and da club I’m missing in action more often than not.

I’ll usually say yes to hitting up a bar then when it comes time to go I’m like ‘Oops I totally forgot I had plans’ or ‘damn it my cat died’, meanwhile I’m at home snuggled in bed with some Ben and Jerry’s.

It’s not that I hate bars, I hate dive bars and I’m not too fond of clubs unless I’m getting bottle service which let’s be real NEVER happens.

I need fancy and I need a drink or two to relax and unwind.

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Plus I hate obnoxious drunk people unless it’s me and my friends.

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So, I’m going to say yes to the bar and da club more often. Go out, meet new people, and maybe a hot guy or two. Hey, I can dream.

The Beach

Now I’m never one to say no to a trip down the shore, I’m a Jersey girl after all, but I do see so many people turning down trips to the beach or pool because they don’t want to get into a bathing suit. Please, bitch. Suck it up and just do it.

Even if you look like Gigi Hadid you’re probably worried about what you look like in a swimsuit which is CRAZY.

No one cares what you look like because they are most likely too busy worrying about their own cellulite and love handles to even notice you.

YOLO, bitches.

Spontaneous Plans

I’m a planner and not a fly by the seat of my pants kinda girl. If my plans for the day/night involve doing nothing being invited last minute somewhere is the bane of my existence. So dramatic, I know.

I need to get better at saying yes to random plans. Basically, I need to stop being a lazy sloth like creature.

Traveling

To be honest I’m not too bad at saying yes to traveling because I can plan in advance and I actually love it.

But I always complain that I can’t travel more because I’m too broke. So, I want to say yes to traveling more which means making a conscious effort to save more (or win the lottery;).

The point of this all is to step outside your comfort zone and stop putting off things until you’re ready because you’ll NEVER be ready.

Do the damn thing and if you’re anything like me you’ll have a blast once you’re actually there and not psyching yourself out.

What do you want to say yes to in 2017?

 xo, Lara

Happy 4th of JULY!

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Happy 4th of July bitches!

I’m spending today boozing it up at a family BBQ while surrounded by some of my favorite people and favorite foods. #blessed

My plan for the day is to drink, swim, dance, eat and repeat.

I’ll probably drink my weight in Vodka Tonics. God, that sounds glorious.

I hope you all have a fantastic holiday and enjoy a little fun in the sun.

Remember to hydrate and wear your sunscreen! Nobody likes dehydrated lobster faced bitch 😉

How are you spending your 4th of July?

xo, Lara

Girls Night In…

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Whew!

Today was a rough day. Who knew laying by the pool was so exhausting 😉

Just kidding…well not really.

After a long day of doing nothing, there’s nothing I love more than a good Girls Night In.

And believe me, I’m an expert at creating the ultimate girls night in.

Booze? Check. Snacks? Check. Trashy TV? Check. Face Masks? Check.

Each week I will be planning out the perfect Girls Night In that you can replicate while watching your favorite reality TV shows.

Sounds perfect, right?

So, let’s get down to business and start getting tipsy.

The Drink

This week we are doing it up with one of my favorite drinks – the vodka tonic. It’s simple and delicious as hell. Just writing about it makes my mouth salivate.

Three must haves for the perfect vodka tonics? A HUGE class, lots of ice, and a shit ton of lime – I’m talking 3-4 plus pieces.

Here’s my (and everyone else 😉 vodka tonic recipe:

2 shots of GOOD, chilled vodka (dump the cheap shit)

1 lime

Tonic Water (I prefer Diet Tonic)

Ice

Fill your glass with ice. Add 2 shots of your very chilled Vodka, I prefer Absolute or any Polish vodka, trust me on this one. Add tonic water, and squeeze in half a lime. Then add 2 wedges of lime to the drink.

Cheers!

The Snack

I love popcorn, and I love elevating my popcorn with some extra flavor. Years ago, my dad and I were obsessed with this garlic rosemary popcorn, but then they stopped making it. Boo, you whore!

Instead, I started making it myself, and now it’s one of my favorite snacks.

Garlic Rosemary Parmesan Popcorn:

Bag of Popcorn

Olive Oil

Chopped Garlic

Rosemary

Parmesan Cheese

A large bowl

A frying pan

Take 2 tablespoons of olive oil and put it into frying pan with 1/2 a tablespoon of chopped garlic and 1 teaspoon of Rosemary. Add a dash of sea salt and fresh pepper. Cook on low until garlic is slightly browned.

Pop your popcorn and place into a large bowl. Drizzle heated olive oil/garlic/rosemary combo over popcorn and mix. Top popcorn with 1/4 cup of Parmesan cheese. Add additional salt if needed.

Nom, nom, nom.

The FaceMask

Your skin is your number one bitch which is why I think skin care is the foundation for everything. If you have shitty skin, everything you put on top of it is going to look crappy as well.

This week I want to chat about Peter Thomas Roth’s Irish Moor Mud Mask. This is a purifying black mask that pulls out the dirt without being drying.

In fact, this mask is ultra-hydrating and fills your skin with loads of vitamins.

I shy away from most purifying masks because they dry my skin out so much. However, this mask is a game changer and has totally changed my opinion on purifying masks.

Apply the Irish Moor Mud Mask with a brush and leave on for 10-15 minutes. Rinse and apply your favorite face cream.

And voila your glowing!

The TV Shows

I literally watch Bravo for a living so that channel is always on my TV. Some of my fave Bravo shows include the Real Housewives (DUH), Southern Charm, and Vanderpump Rules.

Other hot reality shows currently? Teen Mom, the Bachelorette, Catfish, Second Wives Club, Keep Up With the Kardashian, and WAGS.

And I’m sure there are a bunch of others I’m missing. #realityTVjunkiefail

Personally, I’ll only be watching RHONY, Southern Charm, and Second Wives Club this week. But I’m super pumped for next Monday because the Real Housewives of Orange County returns! #blessed

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That’s all the fun I have for this week, bitches. But if you want more make sure you listen to my weekly podcast Pop Fizz Clink which is available on iTunes and SoundCloud.

What are your favorite Girls Night In rituals?

xo, Lara

 

Monday Motivation

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Good Morning Bitches!

It’s the Monday before the Fourth of July, so hopefully, you’re laying by the pool with a drink. I know I am 😉

But if you’re slaving away at the office today let’s give you some motivation to push you through the day.

Monday’s can be brutal especially right before a holiday. Everybody is in vacay mode, and nobody really wants to be doing any work.

However, unless your boss is out of the office (lucky you!) you have to work today.

So, here’s 5 things that will motivate you to get through this Monday!

Mix up your morning drinks and go for something a little fun and festive. Who doesn’t love a good theme?

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That after work drink or two 😉 I’m on a vodka kick so I’d reach for a vodka and tonic or a Moscow mule. But anything cold would fit the bill.

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Daydreaming about all the yummy food you’ll be devouring tomorrow. A good grilled hot dog and corn on the cob are on my list. Oink Oink.

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And let’s not forget the perfect fourth of July treat. The inner kid in me loves a good red, white, and blue popsicle.

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Get motivated bitches!

What’s helping you get through this Monday? Do you have any fun 4th of July plans?

Xo, Lara

how to set goals and achieve them…

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You want a hot body? You wanna live fancy? Live in a big mansion?

You better work bitch.

The infamous Britney Spears couldn’t have said it any better.

Brit-Brit will always be one of my idols. I mean those abs – how does she do it? #fitnessgoals

But let’s cut the shit.

Daydreaming about what you want in life is the easy part.

In fact, it’s so easy, it’s what most people spend their days doing. #boring

However, they never actually do anything more. 

But bitches, setting goals and actually achieving them is an entirely different story.

No matter how insane or outlandish your dreams and goals are, you can achieve them.

I mean Kim Zolciak said it best Ask, Believe, and Receive.

Kim leaves out one tiny detail in between the believe and receive part – it’s called WORKING YOUR ASS OFF.

Got it? Good.

Are we all guilty of day dreaming? Yes. Are we all guilty of wishing our hopes and dreams would just drop in our laps? HELL Yes.

Can we actually set up goals and achieve them? Yes.

So let’s do the damn thing already!

First, decide on something you want to do or work towards. You want bikini body? Or maybe that mansion? #goals

Personally, I want to turn this blog into a career. And I want to get super-skinny and hot. Bam, two goals down!

Then, carefully write down your goals. I’d write down the big picture goal and then also give more specific details about your goal.

Buy a journal or a notebook that you can keep your goals listed in. I’d even suggest using the Notes feature on your phone that way your goals are readily available to you. #themoreyouknow

Next, tell someone you trust about your goals, which will up the chances that you’ll actually stick to them.

I mean no one wants to look like a loser, right?

Now, don’t tell every Tom, Dick, and Harry about your goals. Tell 1 or 2 trusted friends or family member.

Basically, tell someone who won’t laugh in your face.

Then, make your game plan. Think of steps you can take to achieve your goals and write them down.

For me, daily blogging is one of my steps. Eating healthier and moving my ass more is another one.

Now it’s time the WORK YOUR ASS OFF phase.

My advice? WORK YOUR ASS OFF. Harsh? Yes. But as Ray said in Uptown Girls “It’s a harsh world.” 

Keep working on your goals day after day – think of it as a step and repeat.

If something isn’t working – change it. If this goal makes you miserable – fucking change it and start over.

Finally, CELEBRATE!

Pop the bubbly and make it rain.

You don’t have to wait to celebrate until you’ve reached your goal. How boring would that be?

Celebrate the little victories along the way. #blessed

Here are my tips for setting goals and achieving them: 

  1. Daydream 
  2. Decide
  3. Write it down
  4. Say it out loud
  5. Make a game plan
  6. Work your ass off 
  7. Step and Repeat
  8. Celebrate

So bitches let’s stop dreaming and start doing the work. We are all better than living out someone else’s dream. Let’s start living our own.

What are a few goals you have? How do you plan on achieving your goals?

xo, Lara

how to create a realistic morning routine

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Who doesn’t love a good routine? I know I do.

But you know what I hate? Those picture-perfect morning routines we see from so many “influencers,” talk about fake, fake, fake. #killmenow

Like no, I don’t love waking up at 5 am, and no I don’t wake up looking picture perfect. More importantly, no I’m not perky and bubbly first thing in the morning. Gag me.

Let’s get real.

I love sleeping in, and I love staying up late. However, that’s not exactly the best way to live your life. Even though sometimes I still can’t help but sleep in late. Wink, wink.

In reality, my mornings aren’t picture perfect, and they usually are never the same. But I do love continuity, so I think developing a good morning routine is important.

Since becoming unemployed, the structure I had to my morning routine has gone out the window. And to be perfectly honest the first month was rough. I slept till probably 11 or 12 every day. No Bueno. Let’s just say my days were less than productive.

However, I knew I needed to turn things around, so I created a simple, efficient, and relaxing morning routine that doesn’t stress me out or give me the shakes.

So, how can you create a realistic morning routine?

Fucking do it. Just kidding.

First, reflect on your situation and cut out anything that makes you miserable every morning. No one likes a cranky bitch.

Next, decide on 2-4 morning goals that are important to you.

Everyone’s lives and morning ritual are different so make sure your routine fits your life, not someone else’s.

Remember copying a famous blogger or YouTube star’s morning routine isn’t going to make your morning suddenly amazing especially if it doesn’t fit your life.

Instead, create rituals and goals that will make you happy and not stress you out.

Most importantly, do you!

Then, figure out your timeline. Plan out when you’re going to get up and how much time you have to spend on each goal. If you want to spend an hour painting your face each morning, do it! If you’re a hungry bitch and need to eat a big breakfast, get it, girl! #feedme

Finally, be realistic. You can’t do it all every morning. Try out your routine and see if you can stick with it – if not “dust yourself off and try again.”

Remember, “Just do your thang, We’ll see how it goes.”

Personally, I’ve realized that I need to do a few things each morning to feel good. My list includes sleeping in a bit, meditating, having a little dance party, getting Starbucks, doing a face mask than my makeup, and eating breakfast. For me, that’s my perfect morning. Will it change, probably but for now it’s working.

To sum it up here are my four steps for creating a realistic morning routine:

1. Reflect
2. Decide on 2-4 rituals to accomplish
3. Set a timeline
4. Be realistic (and try again, if needed)

Do you have a morning routine? What morning rituals are important to you? Are you sick of seeing idealized morning routines?

xo, Lara

how to stop caring about what other people think of you

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At one time or another, we’ve all cared about what other people think about us.

And if you claim you haven’t you’re a fucking liar. #truth

However, the bigger issue is, some of us care way too much what other people think about us.

In fact, sometimes it gets so bad that it runs our day to day lives. #notcool #beentheredonethat

The good news is, you can change, and you can stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you.

Is it super easy? Well, yes and no. It’s a process.

First of all, the reason most of us (me included) care or have cared about what others think about us is because of our own self-doubt and insecurities.

Think about it – if you are happy and self-confident in your life, do you care what others think? Usually, no.

So, my first tip is to get happy. Happiness and self-confidence go hand and hand in my opinion. You can’t have one without the other.

And remember this life lesson from Elle Woods: “Exercise gives you endorphins, endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.”

How do you get happy? And self-confident? That’s a whole different post.

Getting happy and self-confident is a personal journey – it’s not one size fits all.

One tip I will give is to do some soul searching, and you’ll quickly figure it out. It’s not rocket science after all.

My second tip, is to not take anything personally, like ever.

We’ve all had people say or do things that knock us on our asses. These words hurt, they make us sad and make us feel like shit.

What people say or do is a reflection of themselves, and it has NOTHING to do with you. More importantly, people say stupid shit ALL THE TIME, and they don’t even realize it.

Plus, 95% of the time no one remembers what they said about you, so why should you. Don’t carry around someone’s words with you and relive them like a bad movie. Shake ’em off and move on.

If you don’t take anything personally, you’re immune to it, and it can’t hurt you.

My third tip, know your worth and love yourself.

This tip circles back to tip numero uno.

If you love yourself and know your worth people’s words and opinions won’t matter.

Knowing your worth means not having to go looking for approval from others and not being hurt or affected by what others say. Because honestly you just won’t give a f**k.

When you know you don’t deserve to be treated like shit, you won’t take being treated like crap.

My fourth tip is, don’t be paranoid.

“Paranoia, paranoia. Everybody’s coming to get me.”

Now I know you’re all like what me paranoid? Never. Stop, we’ve all been there.

We all get wrapped up thinking we are so important that people are talking or thinking about us, but truth is they aren’t. Unless you’re a Kardashian, then it’s probably true.

We’ve all thought someone was looking at us because we must be hideous or because we look fat. But the TRUTH is people are way too wrapped up in their lives to care about what you’re doing or what you look like.

Humans are selfish and aren’t paying attention to everything you say and do. So let it go.

All in all, stop being paranoid.

My final tip is, don’t justify yourself or your choices.

People have preconceived notions and opinions about everything including you. However, that doesn’t mean you need to defend or explain yourself or your life choices.

The people who love and support you don’t need an explanation for why you are who you are. Just do you and live your life.

To sum up my tips for not giving a fuck about what people think of you:

  1. Be Happy and Self-Confident
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
  3. Know Your Worth and Love Yourself
  4. Stop Being Paranoid
  5. Don’t Justify Yourself

Remember, none of this is going to happen over night. I’m STILL working on all of these. Some days/weeks are better than others. Like I said it’s a process, but one day it will all click.

You’re fucking fabulous and fantastic – don’t let anyone tell you different.

Do you care what people think of you? How do you deal with it?

xo, Lara